Lena Dunham and Luis Felber have been married since 2021, and in that time, they have not been shy about showing the world their love for each other.
The two co-wrote the new Netflix show “Too Much,” out July 10, which Dunham said was loosely inspired by how she met the British musician.
“A girl moves to England. She meets a musician. They fall in love. That was the exoskeleton. But then he’s such an amazing and creative thinker and loves stories, and so it really expanded far beyond what we had even dreamed it could be into a totally different world,” Dunham told The Hollywood Reporter.
Dunham brought her expertise as the creator and star of “Girls.” Felber, a musician who performs under the name Attawalpa, his middle name, provided the music.
Read on to learn more about the couple’s history.
Early 2021: Felber and Dunham met on a blind date
In a 2021 interview with the New York Times, Felber revealed that he and Dunham first met on a blind date arranged by a mutual friend.
Felber said he walked into the date with an open mind and heart.
“As someone who’s quite open, I find you hold a lot back on your first three dates. Or first 10 dates,” Felber said. “I was just a little bit fed up with that, so I just walked into the situation very myself, shall I say.
Felber continued, “And Lena liked that. And she’s the same.”
The musician said he and Dunham “didn’t stop talking for, like, eight hours,” and that the relationship escalated quickly.
“I’ve only been alive for 35 years in this lifetime, and I think it’s another archaic thing for guys to hide their feelings,” Felber said. “And I think — I’m going to sound cheesy — but when you find your soul mate, you just know.”
Felber said while he had never heard of Dunham before the two started dating, his mom was a fan of “Girls,” a comedy-drama television series created and starred by Dunham.
In his interview with the Times, Felber described his mom as “very shy,” but that she hit it off with Dunham.
“With Lena she was just, like, best friends,” Felber said. “She was very open about her emotions and they just love each other. My dad as well.”
They might have met a long time before
Dunham, in a 2024 Instagram post, revealed she believes she first Felber years before their first date. At the time her first film was premiering at South by Southwest, she saw a gaggle of British men — including one “wearing a French military coat, his black hair wild, drunkenly leading the others down the street.”
“He smiled – at me, or in my general direction?” she wrote. “I never forgot it – I don’t know why, since I’ve seen a lot of boys, in a lot of places, and very few of them imprinted on me in any real way.”
Twelve years later, Dunham officially met Felber. “I’ve said it before, but Lu was immediately familiar to me. I chalked it up to the warm glow of healthy connection,” she wrote.
Then, as he was clearing out his closet, he pulled out the French military coat similar to the one the man in Austin was wearing.
“And there it was – the military jacket, long, slim with the gleaming brass buttons, the epaulets,” she wrote.
She believed Felber was the man she noticed all those years ago.
“It was him. The beautiful boy. Now, my beautiful boy. Now, a sober adult who walks on the sidewalk. My infinite, swirling companion animal. So nice I married him twice.”
September 2021: The couple gets married
Dunham and Felber married in London in September 2021, not long after their first date.
“We got engaged after four months and married after seven months, which is not something I recommend to everybody but it worked for us,” Dunham told The Times in 2022 of their whirlwind romance.
Dunham shared details of their wedding, a small ceremony at the members-only Soho Union Club, in a Vogue interview.
Dunham had a mix of friends and family join her as bridesmaids, including Taylor Swift, her cousin Jenna Hally Rubenstein, Felber’s sister Alma-Kori Felber and Dunham’s podcasting partner, Alissa Bennett.
“I spent so much time during the pandemic talking to my girlfriends about our feelings over FaceTime, but a few of my best friends I haven’t seen in over a year,” Dunham told Vogue.
“And, you know, my girlfriends have had to deal with a lot of not-so-happy things with me in our adulthood, so to be able to celebrate something joyful and use it as an excuse to be together was very special.”
2022: They celebrate their 1-year anniversary
Dunham posted a series of photos of her and Felber on Instagram to celebrate their one year marriage anniversary.
“A year ago today I jumped at the chance to marry this loyal friend, trusted collaborator and drop dead gorgeous Morphius Lord of Dreams lookalike (the Sandman of the books, not the show.) 365 days later, he remains #1 in my iPhone favorites and I wake up jubilant every morning we are together and pining when we are apart. What can I say, @attawalpa, except that you are my home, my hero and my heart. Let’s keep doing this?” Dunham wrote.
2024: The pair traveled to Peru
Felber was born to a Peruvian mother and a British father, according to his interview with the New York Times. Until the age of 7, the musician lived in Peru and Chile before moving back to Britain.
On January 1, 2024, Dunham shared a series of Instagram photos from a trip the couple took to Peru, in which she wrote, “I could ask him a million questions, hear a million of his stories, give him a million gifts but there is so much of @attawalpa I can never understand without learning about Peru.”
“These 6 days only scratched the service of the place that will be a part of our lives forever- driving on the Malecón in the back of an Anconetta, feeding the kittens whose mama chose Lu’s childhood bicycle seat as the best place to give birth, eating causa and tamales and lomo saltado, and most of all meeting his family, especially the great Toto, Lulu’s 103 year old aunt who remembers every piece of family lore (and every birthday.),” she added.
2025: Dunham says she and Felber are in the process of expanding their family
Dunham, 39, told The Times in 2025 that she and Felber are expanding their family. At 31, Dunham underwent a total hysterectomy in an attempt to end chronic pain from endometriosis.
“I will say we’re in the process of expanding our family in new ways,” she told The Times. “I want to safely meet our children and then figure out how to talk about it.”
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